Every
relationship has its good moment and bad moments, ups and downs so
don’t be fooled by the jolly happy relationship most people portray on
social media but when you and your partner are emotionally connected you
will know how to handle the bad times without it affecting your
relationship.
It is advisable for couples to have an understanding and not
deliberately make some mistakes in their relationship, below are some
relationship mistakes every couple must avoid at all cost.
1. Don’t treat fights as battles: No matter how bad
the fight between you and your partner are, know that it is a lovers’
fight and not war so there is no winner or loser so know it is something
you both have to settle amicably to make things better and not to
proclaim one partner as the winner.
2. Don’t get personal: In relationships, it is
possible you both know your weaknesses and insecurities with time so
don’t use their vulnerabilities against your partner because they trust
you enough to show and tell you their weaknesses, don’t break that trust
and respect them enough not to use their trust as leverage against
them.
3. Don’t bring up the past: There is a saying that
when the past comes knocking, don’t open meaning let the past be past,
don’t bring up past issues into a fresh issue as it will only complicate
things and make it worse.
4. Don’t get insecure/jealous: Always remember your
partner has his/her life to live, he/she has friends, family who needs
their time and attention too so stop feeling jealous or insure with your
partner hanging out or talking to other people, everyone needs their
private space in relationships as there is nothing as worst as feeling
suffocated in a relationship.
5. Don’t snoop around: Relationships should be built
on trust, there is no sense when you stick around in a relationship
that you don’t trust your partner so don’t snoop on your partner, stop
checking their phones and stop stalking them on social media it is not
healthy for you or your relationship.
6. Don’t indulge in emotional drama: This is
especially for the ladies, don’t hold your partner hostage emotionally,
don’t threaten them because you are not having your way as this can be
emotionally draining for your partner as well as scare them off instead
have a matured conversation with your partner.
7. Don’t publicise your problems: Stop making issues
in your relationship public knowledge, people won’t help you solve it
they will only gossip ad mock you about it, try and solve your issues
privately and refrain from involving third parties in your relationship
8. Don’t make them your everything: Always remember
that not al relationships will last so matter how good your partner may
be at times things might not work out well so when you make them your
reason for living it will become difficult to live on when the
relationship ends. “So have a life outside the bubble of your
relationship too, don’t lose your identity in order to love them,
because if they leave, you will be left with nothing, not even yourself
so give it your best, but don’t lose yourself”
“If you and your better half stay away from these relationship
mistakes then you two have a chance of actually making it to ‘forever’
perhaps”.
has its good moment and bad moments, ups and downs so
don’t be fooled by the jolly happy relationship most people portray on
social media but when you and your partner are emotionally connected you
will know how to handle the bad times without it affecting your
relationship.
It is advisable for couples to have an understanding and not
deliberately make some mistakes in their relationship, below are some
relationship mistakes every couple must avoid at all cost.
1. Don’t treat fights as battles: No matter how bad
the fight between you and your partner are, know that it is a lovers’
fight and not war so there is no winner or loser so know it is something
you both have to settle amicably to make things better and not to
proclaim one partner as the winner.
2. Don’t get personal: In relationships, it is
possible you both know your weaknesses and insecurities with time so
don’t use their vulnerabilities against your partner because they trust
you enough to show and tell you their weaknesses, don’t break that trust
and respect them enough not to use their trust as leverage against
them.
3. Don’t bring up the past: There is a saying that
when the past comes knocking, don’t open meaning let the past be past,
don’t bring up past issues into a fresh issue as it will only complicate
things and make it worse.
4. Don’t get insecure/jealous: Always remember your
partner has his/her life to live, he/she has friends, family who needs
their time and attention too so stop feeling jealous or insure with your
partner hanging out or talking to other people, everyone needs their
private space in relationships as there is nothing as worst as feeling
suffocated in a relationship.
5. Don’t snoop around: Relationships should be built
on trust, there is no sense when you stick around in a relationship
that you don’t trust your partner so don’t snoop on your partner, stop
checking their phones and stop stalking them on social media it is not
healthy for you or your relationship.
6. Don’t indulge in emotional drama: This is
especially for the ladies, don’t hold your partner hostage emotionally,
don’t threaten them because you are not having your way as this can be
emotionally draining for your partner as well as scare them off instead
have a matured conversation with your partner.
7. Don’t publicise your problems: Stop making issues
in your relationship public knowledge, people won’t help you solve it
they will only gossip ad mock you about it, try and solve your issues
privately and refrain from involving third parties in your relationship
8. Don’t make them your everything: Always remember
that not al relationships will last so matter how good your partner may
be at times things might not work out well so when you make them your
reason for living it will become difficult to live on when the
relationship ends. “So have a life outside the bubble of your
relationship too, don’t lose your identity in order to love them,
because if they leave, you will be left with nothing, not even yourself
so give it your best, but don’t lose yourself”
“If you and your better half stay away from these relationship
mistakes then you two have a chance of actually making it to ‘forever’
perhaps”.
- Every relationship has its good moment and bad moments, ups and
downs so don’t be fooled by the jolly happy relationship most people portray on
social media but when you and your partner are emotionally connected you will
know how to handle the bad times without it affecting your relationship.
